Pubs are an important part of British life. Even very small villages nearly always have a pub. People especially men， will often go to the pub for a drink in the evening and at weekends. A man will usually go to the same pub， one which is closed by and which is called the local： I'm just nipping down to the local for a print. Women now go to pubs more than they used to， but usually don not like to go to a pub on their own. Children under 16 are not usually allowed into pubs， although some pubs have a children's room or a garden where children can sit.
Until 1988， pubs were only allowed to be open from 12：00 am to 2：00 pm alcoholic drink can be sold in a public place are called the licensing laws. Even though the law was changed so that alcohol can now be sold all day， many pubs still only pen at lunchtime and in the evening. When it is nearly time for the pub to close， the landlord or landlady shouts "last orders" and then "time".
Pubs often sell food or snacks as well as drinks. Food that is considered typical pub food is scampi (kind of shellfish) and chips (fried potatoes)， pie and chips， chicken and chips， and ploughman's lunch (bread with cheese)。
Pubs have names， For example: The Angel， The Black Swan， The Crown， The King's Arms， The Red Lion， The White Horse， etc. and people usually refer to the pub by its name： Turn left at the Rose and Crown. There is often a sing outside the pub showing the name with a picture.
Many pubs have two or more different bars. The public bar is usually plainly furnished and often has a pool table and dartboard. It is the bar usually used by the local people. The saloon bar is comfortable and well-furnished and is the bar that is usually used by men and woman drinking together.
Our character, basically, is a composite of our habits. “Sow a thought,reap an action; sow an action, reap a habit; sow a habit, reap a character; sowa character, reap a destiny,” the maxim goes.
人的品德基本上是又習慣組成的。 俗語說;思想決定行動，行動決定習慣，習慣決定品德，品德決定命運。
Habits are powerful factors in our lives. Because they are consistent,often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character andproduce our effectiveness or ineffectiveness.
習慣對我們的生活有絕大的影響，因為他是一貫的。 在不知不覺中， 經年累月影響著我們的品德，暴露出我們的本性，左右著我們的成敗。
As Horace Mann, the great educator, once said, “Habits are like a cable. Weweave a strand of it everyday and soon it cannot be broken.” I personally do notagree with the last part of his expression. I know habits can be learned andunlearned. But I also know it isn't a quick fix. It involves a process and atremendous commitment.
美國著名教育家曼恩曾說：“習慣就彷彿是一條纜繩，我們每天為他纏上一股新索，不要多久就會變得牢不可破。”這句話的後半段我不敢苟同，我相信習慣可以養成，也可以打破，但絕不是一蹴而就，而是需要長期的努力和無比的毅力。
Those of us who watched the lunar voyage of Apollo 11 were transfixed as wesaw the first men walk on the moon and return to earth. But to get there, thoseastronauts literally had to break out of the tremendous gravity pull of theearth. More energy was spent in the first few minutes of lift-off, in the firstfew miles of travel, than was used over the next several days to travel half amillion miles.
宇航員搭乘阿波羅11號太空船，首次登陸月球的剎那，的確令人歎為觀止。但宇航員得先擺脫地球強大的引力，才能飛往月球。由此在剛發射的幾分鐘，也就是整個任務一開始的幾英里之內，是最艱難的時刻，所耗的力量往往超越往後的幾十萬英里。
Habits, too, have tremendous gravity pull- more than most people realize orwould admit. Breaking deeply imbedded habitual tendencies such asprocrastination, impatience, criticalness, or selfishness that violate basicprinciples of human effectiveness involves more than a little willpower and afew minor changes in our lives. “Lift off” takes a tremendous effort, but oncewe break out of the gravity pull, our freedom takes on a whole newdimension.
習慣也是一樣，它具有極大的引力，只是許多人不加註意或不肯承認了。想要革除因循苟且，缺乏耐心，吹毛求疵或自私自利等不良習性，若是缺乏意志力，不能大刀闊斧的改革，便難以實現目標。“起飛”需要極大的努力，然而一旦脫離重力的牽絆，我們便可享受前所未有的自由。
Like any natural force, gravity pull can work with us or against us. Thegravity pull of some of our habits may currently be keeping us from going wherewe want to go. But it is also gravity pull that keeps our world together, thatkeeps the planets in their orbits and our universe in order. It is a powerfulforce, and if we use it effectively, we can use the gravity pull of habit tocreate the cohesiveness and order necessary to establish effectiveness in ourlives.
習慣的引力就如同自然界所有的力量一般，可以為我們所用，也可能危害我們，關鍵看我們如何運用。不過，習慣或許一時有礙於達到目標，但也有積極的一面。宇宙萬物各循軌道執行，彼此保持一定的秩序，畢竟也都有賴於引力的作用。所以只要我們善於運用習慣的龐大引力，就能使生活有重心，有秩序，有效率。
good morning/evening/afternoon, ladies and gentlemen :
today, my speech is about talents,in my opionion, talents are indispensable in nowadays society. as is known to all that the fight among countries is actually the fight among talents.
first, i'd like to define the word"talent" in my idea, a talent is one person who is good at or expertised in some or multiple areas. nowadays, as the world developing goes on , if one country want to rank top or do a good job in the world, the country must have many example, china, the biggest developing country in the world, in the past 100 years, is always invaded by other countries, why ,the reason is that china at that time had not so many talents. if they had anti-intrusion leader talents in the war, needless to say,they would have beat those big they had talents in weapons manufacturing, nodody dares to provoke ver, nowadays, it's a totally different situation, china has become powerfulin all over the world, why ? because there are many talents serving the country, the civilians become more and more and more people go to university,more and more people come to receive further education. so what is that in return,talents in army protect our country from invasion, talents in commerce help make our economy keep in improving, talents in aerospace make the world see chinese manned spacecraft flying. talents in sports make china rank the first in the olympic games……
to sum up, talents will play a more and more impoetant role in the world, if one country intends to flourish, he must foster talents as many as they can ,that's all,thank you.
Students, guests , teachers and Honorable Judges.
Good morning !
my great pleasure to share my dream with you today. my dream is to become a teacher....
As the whole world has its boundaries, limits and freedom coexist in our life. I don’t expect complete freedom, which is impossible. I simply have a dream that supports my life.
I dream that one day, I could escape from the deep sea of thick schoolbooks and lead my own life. With my favorite fictions, I lie freely on the green grass, smelling the spring, listening to the wind singing, breathing the fresh and cool air and dissolve my soul in nature at last. Simple and short enjoyment can bring me great satisfaction.
I dream that one day the adults could throw their prejudice of comic and cartoon away. They could keep a lovely heart that can share sorrow and happiness with us while watching cartoon or doing personal things. That’s the real communication of heart to heart.
I have the belief that my dreams should come true. I am looking forward to some day coming when I am like a proud eagle, which flies to the blue and vast sky.
breathing with dreams
I have a question for you. ‘do you know how to breathe?’ okay, i know what you are thinking now, “girl, are you kidding me? everybody knows how to breathe.” actually, if i were you sitting down in there one year ago, i would think, “how did she make it to the final?”
Alright, seriously speaking, what i am talking about is “the art of breathing”, and it’s about breathing in a yoga way: peacefully and always under control. what it reveals is the real essence of perseverance, “in order to achieve, sometimes, you need to wait.” and when it comes to things you really want in life, it is as hard as it could possibly be.
For me, singing is a life thing. when i am singing on the stage, i feel whole-heartedly involved, and the self-fulfillment it renders is inexplicably thrilling. but with all the realistic problems i need to face in life, all those i want seem too far to be true– so far that i am terrified that i will never ever be able to get there and that gradually i will be carried away by the currents and torrents of life. i’ve been drowned into this ambivalence for so long. now, with a refined perspective towards self-realization, i am waiting, in a graceful posture, and knowing that i am going to get there. and on this, i should say, i owe yoga a thank-you.
I still remember, about one year ago, i attended a yoga course for the very first time. and to tell you the truth, i went there for a nice figure. however, after practicing for some time, i discovered that there was an ineffable inner-strength burgeoning sneakily in me while i totally focused. in order not to let go this significant power, i started to picture all i wanted in my mind while i was fully concentrating, for i believe the wings of imagination could make things possible. i learned to breathe with my dreams, shaping the eagerness into this elegant gesture of persisting.
And now, if you ask me what exactly is “the art of breathing”, i would say it is indeed “the art of living”. it combines the search of balance, the grace of patience, and the awareness of appreciation.
So even though feelings are tied up with life routines, i could still hold onto that free ego which i have always adored: the girl who is singing under the spotlight, with all her heart and soul; the girl who is persevering with all she believes in and always feels grateful for what has been bestowed on her.
That girl is now standing right here in front of you, hoping that you are all as lucky as she is, living with dreams and love. no matter how tough things get, i tell myself, i tell myself that, every single thing i am doing now is every step closer to that very moment of my trajectory, just like every yoga breath to every blossom moment of my life.
My English teacherMy English teacher is slim and beautiful. She is in her thirties with curly,short hair. She has been teaching in this school for about ten years. She is kind,generous, friends and intellegent. Of course she is very strict with us.
She likes reading books and traveling. She knows so much that she always makes her class interesting and lively. She ofen lets us watching PPT, short English movies and descuss in class so that we all have chance to speak English and know the background of Europe and America.
She is our best friend,too. When we have any difficulties wheather they are about English or our lives, she can always give us good suggestion. She works so hard that sometimes she has no time to rest herself. Sometimes she has to prepare the lesson and read our test paper till late at night. I still remember when she first became my English teacher, I was weak in it and always worried. She talked with me for a long time on how to learn English and lent me some books. Besides she often helped me with my English after school. With her help, I made great progress and I could caught up with others. Now I am good at English and I thank her very much. This is my English teacher who is lovely and kind. So we all love her very much.
As you know, there are four kinds of pollution. They are air pollution,water pollution, waste pollution and noise pollution. But what can we do tosolve the pollution? I think, firstly, we can make cars that don’t pollute theenvironment. We can ask companies to use modern clean technology. In some bigcities, we can limit the number of cars. Secondly, we can try to use less waterand make sure that we do not pollute the water. We can tell factories that theyare not allowed to pour waste water into the lakes and rivers. Thirdly, weshould not throw rubbish in parks and cities. We can pick up rubbish if we seeit. We can put more rubbish bins in our parks and cities. Fourthly, we can livefar from the noise and make the laws to limit the noise.
The air, water and the whole atmosphere directly influenced our lives, suchas the air, people may cough and it will lead to cancer. So we must try our bestto keep the world clean and tidy. To reach it, I want to put forward threepoints to everybody---Point 1: don’t spit and liter; Point 2: don’t draw on thewall; Point 3: clean the streets every day.
In order to make the environment clean, let’s join our hands together tomake the world better.
Thank you!
Today I am very glad to be here to share with you my ideas of success. What is success? It is what everyone is longing times success would be rather simple. Winning a game is success; getting a high grade in the exam is success; making a new friend is success; even now I am
standing here giving my speech is somehow also success.
However, as a person’s whole life is concerned, success becomes very
complicated. Is fortune success? Is fame success? Is high social status success? No, I don’t think so. I believe success is the realization of people’
s hopes and days, in the modern society there are many people
who are regarded as the successful. And the most obvious characteristics of hem are money, high position and luxurious life. So most people believe that s success and all that they do is for this purpose. But the problem is wether it is real success. We all know there are always more money, higher position and better condition in front of us. If we keep chasing them, where is the end? What will satisfy us at last? Therefore, we can see, to get the real Success we must need something inside, which is the realization of
people’ hopes and ideals.
Different people have different ideas about success; cause people’s hopes and ideas vary from one another. But I am sure every success is dear to everybody, cause it is not easy to come by, cause in the process of our striving for success, we got both our body and soul tempted, meanwhile we are enlightened by the most valuable qualities of human beings: love, patient, courage and sense of responsibility. These are the best treasures. So now I am very proud that I have this opportunity to stand here speaking to all of you. It is my success, cause I raise up to challenge my hope.
What is success? Everyone has his own interpretation as I do. But I am sure
every success leads to an ever-brighter future. So ladies and gentlemen, believe in our hopes, believe in ourselves, we, every one of us, can make a
successful life!
Wish you all good success!
Dear friends:
If you can dream it, you can do it.——Walt Disney
It was a long four years. Even after I had actually graduated, the nightmares began to haunt me, the university would call to say I hadn’t truly graduated. There had been a mistake and there was just one more class I needed to take. I was always so relieved to wake up and realize that it had only been a bad dream. In reality, I had completed every course needed for my degree, and I was a full-fledged college graduate!
Now, the rest of my life loomed ahead of me. Sometimes a bachelor’s degree prepares you for a specific occupation——you train to be an accountant, you graduate and get a position in an accounting firm. Often, however, your stint in college only prepares you to make further decisions regarding your future. You’re pretty sure what you don’t want to do!
During my senior year of college, I had toyed with the idea of changing my major. At that point, I had finally discovered what captured my heart. But, wanting to finally be finishing school was a stronger pull. So, I took a few courses in physiology and exercise science, but not enough to receive a degree in physical therapy. That would require advanced schooling, beyond my bachelor’s degree——and I just wasn’tready to tackle that. Having completed my B.C. degree, I didn’t have any intentions of furthering my education.
So, I did the safe thing and got an office job——the very thing I was sure that I didn’t want to do! I detested the office policies, the suits I had to wear and the downtown environment that I had to drive to every day. I knew this was not where I belonged.
But god knew what path my career was to follow. A position opened up at the most exclusive health club in our city, so I applied. This was my kind of environment——an active, vibrant kind of place——completely at the opposite end of the spectrum from the office environment where I found myself. The position required that I work Saturday nights and Sunday mornings. Perfect, I thought! I could keep my office job Monday through Friday and work at my dream job on the weekends. This arrangement lasted several months until, eventually, a full-time position opened up and I was able to resign from my office job.
Over the next few years, I worked my way up the leader, gaining experience in several different departments. I found my niche as the director of member services——catering to our clientele and providing them with numerous cutting-edge programs. I would have stayed at that job forever——it seemed to be the pinnacle of all my dreams fulfilled. Here were fellow employees who had a passion for the same things that I did——health and fitness. Yet again, god had other plans for my in two years, a newer, bigger, better and more state-of-the-art health club facility was built——just five miles down the road. And, in turn, the owner lost many members to that club. And, in turn, the owner lost thousands of dollars. One by one we were each laid off.
After trying unsuccessfully to land another similar position elsewhere, I knew what I had to do. Go back to school!thanks!
Success is made up of one percent talent and ninety-nine percent effort.
The process of climbing is hard, but the scenery of the top is different than it in the bottom of the order to see the scenery of the top, we must overcome all difficulties bravely thing easy to say , but difficult to do. The peak looks so far away from our, the leg is so painful, and others say that, forget it, you can't climb up, quickly stop and rest.
So, the higher of the mountain, the fewer people. But, could we give up the scenery of the peak? although Success is far away, but there it is, it hands to us ,and encourage us to persist a while, the most beautiful scenery will belong to us. So, no matter how tired, no matter how hard, we still adhere to the teeth, until success. Like Chris Gardner, in order to survive, to his son, he works very hard, although so tired that even want to give up, but he knew, giving up is a thorough failure, means coming back to the origin, losting hope at the same time. You got a dream, you gonna protect it. When we at the most hard time, hold on for a moment, will be the most beautiful scenery.
Successful people will never give up after the storm, rather than born with the ability to got ks!
Some say growing up in rich family promotes children's personality and character. Some think otherwise. What's your opinion? Why?
Well, it's quite a question argued by people all the time. I think a person's personality has little relation to his family economic level. It's commonly said that a child in rich family will has more chances and better choice for his study. However, if the kid himself isn't aware of this, that is all in vain. It's not unusual that many children from rich family are quite rude and conceited although they are always receive the best education. Then, how about the poor family's children? There is another saying that adversity cultivates heroes. To be honest, I disagree with it too. Poor children should learn harder and catch every chance to strengthen themselves. However, the reality is often not like that. Subjectively speaking, poor children are easy to feel inferior and thus can't study well. Even if they study well, they hardly do well in practicing ability. Objectively speaking, poor children can hardly receive good and plentiful education because of the economic limit. That will cause deficiency in some literal or artistic talent such as music or dance. Therefore, I think children's personality have little relation to their family situation.
Respected teachers, Dear students Thanks for your appreciation. I would like to introduce myself here. :I was brought to everyone's speech entitled "Bloom Days".
The heart of the blue sky and white clouds, hoping herons freely hover; Teachers and the heart of the campus, we want students to grow. Bloom days, we walked into the campus-happy, singing happily in the field of hope; Bloom days, we traveled the oceans in campus-knowledge, and teachers together to weave a dream; Bloom days, we are willing to feel the joy of music to write music harmonious campus! ~
Students! Time changes in the elderly quietly capable, we do not have the feeling that time is flying? He was a poet Tao Yuanming had such a sigh : "The prime emphasis, on the 1st difficult morning. When timely encouragement, time is not on our side. "We have some sense of urgency. We young people are the springtime of life; Good morning, it is the rising sun! We are the generation that will straddle the school into this century; Into education in the new millennium! We will become a torrent of criticism storms warriors, who happened to be the time when honor and arduous! All learning is the only way into the event; Is the basis of all creation. We should study hard and sweat lay the foundations of the buildings; Hard to obtain the value of time spent; To the bright red five-star flag of his hands; Only in this way can be worthy descendants of the Chinese nation, can we assume a link between the past and the future glorious mission!
Teachers to enlighten the knowledge of our culture, our ignorance to knowledge, from naive to mature; Teacher to our knowledge of rain, we need the wholehearted acceptance of the treasure to pay teachers, and respect the teacher's work, mutual respect and mutual love students, thereby creating a harmonious atmosphere for learning!
Students! We are filled with hope and confidence to Rap, "Life" knock the door of the mystery of life is so rich and broad. There are countless treasures waiting to mining; There are countless dangerous peak waiting to be climbed. Waiting for us to draw a blueprint for countless. The flowers in the days allocated to scatter the seeds of hope and hard work! ~
Students! It is that the fallen flowers, we are leading the way for our great motherland; We have a rich learning environment for our campus escort; We have our most respected teachers of navigation! We have no reason not to come out of a mix of flowers? Future is not a dream, this is in our hands, let us passion for the game, so injection of youth, putting together a life without any regrets!
Good afternoon everyone:
Talking about integrity, some people may tkink that there is even no integrity on the officialdom in our countary. Is that true?
Turn on the TV the important new may the senior officials corruptioned the amazing number of money or have a lot of houses and some even have one or more mistresses. Often when I see it I fell diappointed. Where is “To serve the people”? Where is “The servants of the people”? Where is “Construction of integrity”? And “Where is the harmonious society”? No one give me an answer. So I disappointed so I keep silence.
What cause it? The system in China? May be it’s the reason on the one hand. If there is a crue system in China forexample find the officials corruption then give the death penalty with no mercy. I think it will be less and less corruptiones.
But the most reason I think is the greedy heart in the k back new China early the heart of the people is integrity very much. The officials think about is the countary is the people. And even no one think about is the oneself profit. People live happy and don’t worry about somethings even they are poor.
I have a dream the officials in China can serve the people really don’t for themselves profit.
I have a dream if people have something to save they will seek help for gorventment but not use money.
I have a dream the officials can put the integrity in there heart but not the speech.
And I have a dream our countary will be more and more beautiful. Tkink you!
Opportunities and Challenges
Good afternoon ，ladies and gentlemen!
I’m very honored to stand here and give you a short speech! my topic is Opportunities and Challenges.
First, I would like to know, what does your destiny offer you? Happiness, wisdom, a strong body or something else. If I had asked this question to president Nixon, he would probably had said,”Our destiny offers not the cup of despair, but the chalice of opportunity.”
Needless to say, one of the biggest opportunities given to China is the 20xx Olympic Games. Till now, we have used two sevenths of the preparation time. How much changes have you seen? New roads, new subway lines, public-exercising equipments with beautiful colors, large blocks of grass fields, and also lots of modern gyms which are under construction.
Other than those, there are even more good effects brought to us by the Olympic Games that cannot be seen directly. For example, more and more people will get to know China. I’m sure the mysterious Chinese culture will attract them strongly. And the games will also do good to the economy and environment, for it is gaining the attention of foreign investors and the awareness of environmental protection is being strengthened. What is more, Olympic Games give a unique opportunity to inspire and educate a new generation of Chinese youth with the Olympic values and the Olympic spirit. Now that we have seen so many advances, could you even imagine us losing the holding rights?
I’ve already said a lot about the Olympics and China. But I think everyone should use some time to think of this question, ”Does the Olympic Games have any special meaning to you?”
For us, I mean the Chinese youth, 20xx Olympic Games is a tremendous gift. Because what we are waiting for is to do something significant as repaying the love given to us society is just like a ship, and in our dreams the captain is waving his hand and saying ”Hey! Come here and take the helm! ”How charming his voice is, but we have never heard of it in our true life. This morning, however, when we wake up, we will see the Olympic Games waving its hand. After chewing, most of us will have at least one plan about what to do for the Olympic Games. And mine is to be a “comforter” ----that is someone who will give comfort to others.
At the end of my speech, I hope all the preparation will go well, and everyone will show their ability to the world. Let us seize opportunities and give a big smile to challenges.
Life is important to anyone in the what the life mean is not clear to anyone on the earth.
What is the meaning of life?Someone thinks that life is working and think that they don't need to know anything outside the field of their specializations,so they don't care about many things such as sports,entertainment,music...
Life is more than course working is important to our life,because it supports oppotunity to get money,and make our life ver,working is not enough to a human in today's society,he or she should know much more knowledge than his or her own knowledge outside one's specialization can help him or her build up the moral sense.
The meaning of life is difficult to one can give the clear identification of the life is not meaning of life is to anyone in the world is ready to devote,the life of the world will be more beautiful.
we remember the days, we sat out together with faith? remember the times, so fine, when we thought that nothing could stand in our way? then things weren't the same, the life that we knew had to change we've struggled through the darkest storms, we thought we couldn't tame together we've tried, as we stood side by side i knew we'd build a new world, a world of hope forever after deep in my heart i just know, right from the start we will grow look where we are, we've come so far and there's still a long long way to go all of my heart, i will care. i'll play my part, i will share with family and friends,together we'll stand and in the end, hand in hand, we will get there so now we begin, working together to win believing in trust, it must be possible to overcome anything. there's so much to do, there's so much we can contribute by sharing just a little love, we will start again a new so why don't we try? if we stand side by side i know we'll build a new world, a world of hope for ever after
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從前美麗的天色 那時天很藍 我們的未來都在不遠地方晴朗著 一切都變了 生命不只是快樂 濃濃黑霧籠罩我們 暴風雨就要來了 但誰說不能 肩並著肩站穩 我們用心和用愛創造 讓新的世界誕生 在我心中我知道 這是永恆的長跑 好不容易 來到這裡 明天還要追更多榮耀 把自己角色扮演好 全力以赴每一秒 和我的家人和我的朋友 向著目標手牽手 一起走到 這又是起點 我們有一樣心願 當我們團結 狂風巨浪也不能阻擋我們走向前 誰害怕改變 只要緊握著信念 心中有夢沒有遙遠 跨出去就在瞬間 但誰說不能 肩並著肩站穩 我們用心和用愛創造 讓新的世界誕生 在我心中我知道 這是永恆的長跑 好不容易 來到這裡 明天還要追更多榮耀 把自己角色扮演好 全力以赴每一秒 和我的家人和我的朋友 向著目標手牽手 一起走到 把自己角色扮演好 向著目標手牽手 一起走到
Today is Monday; I wake up at 6 o’clock in the morning. Then I have my breakfast at home and take the subway to school. I am quite excited about this day, because our chemistry teacher will teach us to do an interesting experiment. This experiment is about how to create soap. Last week, the chemistry teacher promised that we would have something fun in this week. Making our own special soap is the mission in this class.
When the experience begins, the whole class is very exciting; we mix the oil, water and lye. You need to be very careful, because the lye is harmful to the skin. Then we will stir the oil and lye for about ten minutes, the chemistry reaction will make the liquid into solid. Then the soap comes into being. Although the process is tired, we have a lot of fun. The most important thing is we learn how to make soap. The time passes so quickly, we feel very busy but learn a lot of useful things.
Do I Need To Like Myself?
Yes! People who don't like themselves are a pain in the neck!
Usually, people with a poor self-image use one of two irritating strategies. They either:
a) criticize you a lot or
b) they criticize themselves a lot.
STRATEGY A: They criticize you a lot. They figure that by criticizing other people they can feel better about themselves.
Let's take Fred, who feels inferior. Fred thinks he has a big nose and piggy eyes. He also secretly feels a bit stupid.
So what's his strategy to feel better about himself? He criticizes all his friends. He has names for them like “Flathead”, “Chicken Legs” and “Dogbrain”. Whenever someone else makes a mistake, he announces it to the whole class. (He probably doesn't even realize he criticizes people—or why he does it.)
If you have parents, friends or brothers and sisters who don't like themselves—they might criticize you and everyone around them. Just remember that they criticize you because they have a problem. If you remember that they are actually hurting inside, you won't get so upset by their behaviour.
STRATEGY B: Some people who don't like themselves criticize themselves a lot. They use reverse psychology...
Take Mary who doesn't like herself. She's always telling you, “You are prettier than me. You are smarter. Nobody likes me.” She's hoping that you will reply, “No Mary! You are clever. You are beautiful.” After a while, people like Mary get on your nerves!
In a nutshell
When we don't like ourselves, we irritate other people. We also put ourselves through a lot of stress. When we accept ourselves a little better, we don't play these games.
How Can I Like Myself﹖
In our hearts, most of us believe we should be doing better. We think that we should have gotten higher grades. We want to be popular and hang out with the “in” crowd. We feel we don't measure up to our parents' expectations. Our parents help to confirm this idea when they ask, “Why can't you be more like your brother?”
Whenever you are feeling low, be your own best friend. Accept that, up to now, you have lived your life the best way you know how. No one sets out to screw up their life! Like anyone, you've done the odd stupid thing. With more information you'll likely do better in the future.
Liking yourself means forgiving yourself. If you have made some serious mistakes, if you have hurt some people—and yourself—feeling guilty won't help.
If you are feeling guilty about something, you have already suffered enough. Being guilty for another six months won't help anybody.
Forget perfection and aim for improvement.
It's a funny thing. When you forgive yourself for your own mistakes, you automatically begin to let others off the hook for the same things.
“But I'm Not Brilliant...”
You might look at yourself and say, “I'm not as beautiful as my sister, I'm not as talented as my friends and I'm not brilliant at anything! How can I feel good about me?”
Fact: Nobody is good at everything and most of us have those thoughts!
But here's the lowdown! Talent and beauty are very useful—but there are plenty of talented and beautiful people around whom we don't necessarily admire. And some of them are a pan in the butt!
The qualities most of us value above all others are honesty, courage, persistence, generosity and humility. Take a look at this list and you'll find something interesting. You aren't born with these things. You develop them. Anyone can have them! If you want self-respect, and respect from others, you don't have to be an Einstein or a super-model.
You simply work at developing your own honesty, determination, generosity, humility and courage. It is called “character”.
In a nutshell
How you feel about yourself is in your hands.
非得喜歡自己嗎?
確實如此!不喜歡自己的人很討厭!
通常，自我感覺不好的人會採用兩種策略，要麼老是挑剔別人，要麼總是挑剔自己。
策略一：老是挑剔別人。他們以為挑別人的錯就能自我感覺良好。
比如說弗雷德吧，他就覺得自己不如別人。弗雷德感到自己長了一個大鼻子、兩隻豬眼睛，還暗自感覺腦子有點笨。
那他想感覺好一點怎麼辦呢?於是就挑所有朋友的毛病，給他們起一些怪名字，什麼“平頭”啊，“雞腿”啊，“狗腦”啊等等。每當有人犯錯誤，他就對全班同學宣佈。 (他很可能壓根兒就沒意識到在批評別人，或者為什麼要這麼做。)
如果你父母、朋友或兄弟姊妹不喜歡自己，他們可能挑剔你和身邊的每一個人。請記住，他們挑剔你是因為他們有問題。其實他們內心有傷痛，記住這一點，你就不會對他們的行為感到特別心煩了。
策略二：有些不喜歡自己的人老說自己不好。他們的心理正好相反。
拿瑪麗來說吧，她就不喜歡自己。她總對別人說，“你比我漂亮。你比我聰明。誰都不喜歡我。”她心裡其實希望對方這樣回答，“不對，瑪麗!你很聰明，很漂亮。”不用多久，瑪麗這種人就會令人生厭。
簡言之
不喜歡自己，就會去煩別人。同時自身也會承受很大的壓力。對自己好一點，就不會去玩那些煩人的把戲了。
怎樣才能喜歡自己?
內心裡，大多數人都認為自己應該比現在強。我們認為考試分數應該再高一些。我們想受人歡迎，跟那些“時髦的”人在一起。我們感到達不到父母的期望。父母也證實了這一點。他們會問，“你就不能向你哥哥多學一點?”
無論何時你感覺不良，你要做自己最親密的朋友。要承認到目前為止，你是在以你所知的最佳方式生活。誰都不會成心破壞自己的生活。你跟別人一樣做了些奇怪而愚蠢的事。你如果知道得多一些，將來就會做得好一些。
喜歡自己意味著原諒自己。如果你犯了嚴重的錯誤，如果你傷害了別人，傷害了自己，內疚是不管用的。
如果你為某事感到內疚，你已經受到了足夠的折磨。再內疚半年，對人對己都無濟於事。
忘記完善，立志改善
這是很有趣的一件事。一旦你原諒自己的過錯，就會自動不再追究別人同樣的錯誤。
“但是我不很出色……”
你也許會將自己審視一番，說，“我沒姐姐那麼漂亮，也沒朋友那麼聰明，我哪方面都不出色!叫我怎麼感覺良好?”
事實是：沒有誰是萬能的，而且大多數人都有你這種想法。
不過真相是這樣的!才智和美貌很有用，但是聰明漂亮的人我們並不一定就羨慕，這樣的人在我們周圍大有人在。再說有些人不過是徒有虛名而已!
大多數人最看重的品質是誠實、勇敢、頑強、慷慨和謙遜。只要看看這一串詞語，就能發現一件有趣的事。這些品質不是與生俱來的，是後天培養的。人人都能擁有!想自重並受人尊重，不一定非得是愛因斯坦或超級名模。
你只需努力培養自己的誠實、堅毅、慷慨、謙遜和勇敢就行了。這就叫“品格”。
簡言之
自我感覺如何全看你如何把握。
Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others, including Love. One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all constructed boats and left. Except for Love.
Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to hold out until the last possible moment.
When the island had almost sunk, Love decided to ask for help.
Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said,"Richness, can you take me with you?"
Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."
Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel. "Vanity, please help me!"
"I can't help you, Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.
Sadness was close by so Love asked, "Sadness, let me go with you."
"Oh . . . Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!"
Happiness passed by Love, too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her.
Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come, Love, I will take you." It was an elder. So blessed and overjoyed, Love even forgot to ask the elder where they were going. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went her own way. Realizing how much was owed the elder, Love asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who Helped me?"
"It was Time," Knowledge answered.
"Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?"
Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how valuable Love is."
中文翻譯：
從前有一個島，所有的情感都住在那裡：幸福、悲傷、知識和所有其它的，愛也不例外。一天，所有的情感聽說小島即將沉沒，因此建造小船，紛紛離開，除了愛。
愛是唯一留下來的，因為它希望能堅持到最後一刻。
小島即將沉沒了，愛決定請求幫助。
富有駕著一艘大船從愛身邊經過，愛說，“富有，你能帶上我麼?”
富有回答說：“不行，我的船上載滿金銀財寶，沒有你的地方。”
虛榮坐在漂亮的小船中從愛身邊駛過，愛問：“虛榮，你能幫助我麼?”
虛榮說：“不行，你全身溼透，會弄髒我的船。”
悲傷的船靠近了，愛問：“悲傷，請帶我走吧。”
“哦。。。愛，我太難過了，想一個人呆著。”
幸福經過愛的身邊，它太開心了，根本沒聽見愛在呼喚。
突然，一個聲音喊道：“來，愛，我帶你走。” 聲音來自“年老”。愛太高興了，甚至忘了問他們即將去何方。當他們來到岸上，年老自己離開了。愛突然意識到“年老”給了它多大的幫助。
於是，愛問另一位老者--知識：“誰幫助了我?”
知識說：“是時間。”
“時間?”愛問：“但是時間為什麼幫助我?”
知識睿智地微笑道：“因為只有時間瞭解愛的價值。”
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